Parenting is the most rewarding but the most challenging role I have ever experienced. As parents, we should have all the answers when it comes to our kids, right? I mean we have been before our kids when it comes to learning to ride a bike, going through grade school, having a “first love”, turning 16 and learning to drive a car, our bodies experiencing the teenage hormonal changes, going to college, having “real” jobs…..And we have so much real life experiences on our side with decisions we have made through life, sometimes good ones and others not so much.
I was asked a question this weekend by my oldest son, “Why do bad things happen to good people”? My answer to him was that we live in a sinful world and evil is real and prevails at times but God also loves us enough to give us free will to make decisions that may not be in our best interest and could have long-term negative effects on our lives. He didn’t create us to be mere robots and just do what He wants us to do. And yes, just like kids disappoint their parents at times, we also disappoint God with how we choose to live our lives or the decisions we make.
His next question was, "Why do young people with promising futures lose their life so tragically". Whew, his questions weren’t getting any easier. I had to think about this one. Was this a trick question? Why do the good die young? What is God’s purpose in what we see and feel as such a senseless act? From our perspective, there really isn’t a clear answer to this question. But I did a little research to better understand this from God’s perspective to help my son and I get through a tragic loss of his friend.
Do you think for one second God see’s a child’s life taken for whatever reason as a loss? Life is NEVER lost to the One who can restore it. God is able to give life and restore a life eternally so no loss is ever suffered on the part of a child or a teenager. God will overcome any bad or evil in all situations. Make no mistake about this.
In our time of loss, as the ones left behind, we have no other option than to also seek “THE ONE” who can restore us with His strength, love, and peace that passes all understanding. God is available for us to experience His strength and comfort, His love, and assurance in the face of evil that exists in our every day world. God is our sustainer when we grieve who calls us closer to Him to get through the tough days we will face in our times of loss.
The verse from the bible in Isaiah 55:9 has helped me get through these past few days. "As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts”. NIV
Just as I get frustrated when my kids question my decisions on how I parent, I can’t question God with the decisions He makes. This is natural in the flesh to want to do this but it is disobedient in my relationship with God to question His decisions. His ways and thoughts are much higher than mine will ever be and He does have all the answers that I will NEVER have as a parent or as “Believer” in Christ. My only job is to trust and know that He has my best interest at heart eternally. And maybe, just maybe, I will have a better understanding to life’s questions on earth when I get to the other side. Or maybe it won’t even matter when I get to the other side because I will experience finally the everlasting love that the ones who have gone before me as believers are experiencing now. What a great gift we have in eternal salvation as believers in Christ.